Hi, this is Jay Parker with this week's sex chat quickie.

I recently heard from a wife who hadn't been having regular orgasms during sex.

Her husband would finish.

She was left hanging and neither left the bedroom with the full satisfaction they deserved.

Unfortunately, she hadn't let him know that she still wanted an orgasm even after

the main attraction sexual intercourse was done. Believe me, it took time and getting over the

hump of initial awkwardness to say such things to my own husband, so I get it. The idea of speaking

up for what you want sexually can set off nervousness that rivals a trembling

chihuahua.

But deep intimacy in your marriage bed is only possible when you can speak openly about

what provides you physical pleasure and gives you a sense of emotional connection.

So my tip today is simple.

Speak up for what you want.

Our husbands aren't mind readers.

Talk to your beloved about where you most like to be touched, how you like to be touched,

what gets you interested in sex, what turns you off, when you're up for it and when you're

not, and what gets your engine revving and your pistons firing. Help your guy to be the best lover he can

be by telling him what arouses and sates your sexual desire. Start by talking outside the

bedroom about your preferences and then remind him inside the bedroom of what you discussed. You can

also quote unquote speak up nonverbally by moving his hand or mouth where you'd

like it to be. Most husbands like knowing that you're into sex enough to request what you want.

And if you're unsure what you want and need more ideas, check out our webinars with lots of

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