Hi friends, welcome back to the show and welcome back to a week where we are allowing

whatever sadness is in our hearts to actually be there. So we are talking about grief

this week and today I wanted to offer some space to something

that you haven't allowed yourself to grieve. Something that hurts or that has hurt you in the past.

Some painful thing, something that has brought up sadness, something that

actually makes your heart ache, but where you haven't been able to fully allow yourself to

feel the full extent of that, where for whatever reason, could be circumstance, could be that you haven't had the time. Sometimes

that's literally what happens is we don't have the time to slow down enough to actually take

the time we need to grieve. We feel like we have to soldier on and just get through the day and so we

put it away somewhere far.

Sometimes we can't allow ourselves to grieve because other people need us, and to be able to really fully be there for others.

We feel like we can't let ourselves marinate in the sadness inside. It's too difficult

to do both, to hold someone else and hold ourselves at once. Or perhaps there's something that

you haven't allowed yourself to grieve because you've been gaslighting yourself a little bit,

or maybe other people have. And they've told you that this thing isn't a

big deal actually that you shouldn't be that upset about that thing it's not worthy of your time

or worthy of your tears so just you know suck it up and move on perhaps you've been belittling

this thing or the impact it had in your life. Actually, it needs

time. It needs space. If the sadness is there, it absolutely is worthy of your grief, of your time.

So what is something that you haven't allowed yourself to grieve fully?

Sometimes, and maybe you resonate here, I know I really feel like this sometimes.

Sometimes it feels like when we open the door to grief, we don't know how big the room is going to be.

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