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These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Okay, repeat after me. Your jealousy is not my problem. Your insecurities are not my problem. Your

dysfunctions are not my problem. Well, your dysfunctions probably are my problem too because you're

with me and I've got to deal with them. So they might be my problem.

How about this?

Your inability to accept me as I am is not my problem.

This is something that I learned from my partners in my life.

My first long-term girlfriend, she knew how to stand up for herself.

She knew how to stand up for me.

She had more courage than I did when it came to something that needed to be addressed and I didn't want to address it because I was so conflict-averse.

And my now-wife has that same quality, maybe times two.

In fact, we were just having this conversation today.

She said, I'm usually the one that has to say something.

I'm usually the A-hole.

She said the whole word. I'm usually the jerk. I'm usually the one

who has to stand up and say something or I'm usually the one who does say something. And

she's right. Sometimes people don't say anything and she's the only one that will say it. And then

she looks like the jerk but

everyone else is probably thinking about it and they didn't say anything that's one thing i

admire one of many things that i admire about ayesha she will stand up and she will sometimes

scare me she will sometimes scare me.

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