Slay the Dragon of Wrong Assumptions

The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

Newlifefellowship, Religion & Spirituality, Leadership, Richvillodas, Petescazzero, Emotionallyhealthyspirituality, Christianity, Faith, Peterscazzero, Churchleaders, Spirituality, Emotionallyhealthy, Newyork, Pastor

4.8 • 673 Ratings

🗓️ 3 October 2023

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Leadership can be a painful journey - especially in a church or ministry that depends on the depth and quality of the relationships within.

Yet, in over 4 decades of leadership, I've found that so much of this pain is completely UNNECESSARY.

Why? Because much of the pain we experience is the fruit of wrong assumptions.

Assumptions are like a dragon that seeks to destroy our well-being.

· People quit their jobs over wrong assumptions

· Churches split over wrong assumptions

· Couples divorce over wrong assumptions

· Families stop talking to one another over wrong assumptions.

When you and I make assumptions about others without checking them out, it’s easy to start telling ourselves stories about them in our heads that are not true. We are bearing false witness in our own thoughts, resulting in damaged relationships.

The principle is simple: NEVER assume you know what a person is thinking or feeling.

On today's podcast, I'm joined by my wife Geri, as we explore the second of 8 essential relationship skills that every leader must adopt in order to unleash the God-given voice of our people.

This skill is called "STOP MIND READING", and once you learn this, it could very well save your life and ministry.

Take a listen to today's podcast.

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0:00.0	Welcome, everyone to the Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast.
0:10.0	So good to be with you.
0:11.3	Hello, Jerry.
0:12.3	Hello, honey.
0:13.4	Nice to have you here.
0:14.8	Today's theme is Slay the Dragon of Wrong Assumptions.
0:19.8	Now, this is our second in a series of eight podcasts around emotionally healthy relationship skills.
0:27.6	Now, after 40 years of leading, we have found, discovered that one of the largest gaps in
0:36.4	training leaders as well as discipleship in general is how to build
0:40.6	healthy relationships, mature community, mature teams.
0:44.6	It's a massive gap in our leadership training and discipleship in our churches.
0:50.6	And so as a result, we have lots of conflicts and tensions and frustrations and stress, confusions,
0:56.2	month after month, year after year in our churches and relationships.
0:59.3	And the fruit of our churches and ministries is not that different very often from the rest of the world.
1:05.0	So one of our unique contributions of emotionally healthy discipleship that we've been working off for the last almost 30 years
1:10.9	here is addressing this missing piece of discipleship or leadership formation talking about
1:16.9	slow down spirituality and emotional health. Those are the two big buckets. And today we are
1:23.5	going after the life and death issue of the dragon of wrong assumptions. And because it
1:29.2	impacts friendships, families, marriages, churches, teams, workplaces, leadership, supervision, you name
1:38.9	it. And so we need skills. And so we went on this long journey of decades developing skills to put our theology into
1:47.2	practice, not just preach about, but actually do it.
1:50.2	And so there's eight skills that are part of what we call today the emotionally healthy
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