The Life-Saving Practice of Clarifying Expectations

The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

Newlifefellowship, Religion & Spirituality, Leadership, Richvillodas, Petescazzero, Emotionallyhealthyspirituality, Christianity, Faith, Peterscazzero, Churchleaders, Spirituality, Emotionallyhealthy, Newyork, Pastor

4.8 • 673 Ratings

🗓️ 17 October 2023

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

When was the last time someone let you down?
Or can you think of a recent moment where YOU let someone else down?
I'll bet the catalyst of these disappointments comes down to one thing - unmet expectations.

The truth is – unclear and unmet expectations have the power to rip apart relationships, divide staff teams, blow up families, and sink entire churches. That's why expectations are a matter of life and death!

There are 4 primary ways expectations go wrong:

Your expectation is unconscious. You didn't even know you had an expectation until it was violated.
Your expectation is unrealistic. It is not reasonable given the person or circumstance.
Your expectation is unspoken. You did not clearly articulate your expectation to another person.
Your expectation is un-agreed upon. The other person never agreed to follow-through with your expectation.

The good news is – this can all be remedied by learning the life-saving skill of Clarifying Expectations.

On today's podcast, I'm joined by my wife Geri, as we explore the third of 8 essential relationship skills that every leader must adopt in order to love and lead like Jesus.

Take a listen to today's podcast.

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0:00.0	Hi, everyone. Hi, Jerry.
0:06.2	Hi, honey.
0:06.9	Welcome everyone to the Emotionally Healthy Leader podcast. Great to be with you.
0:11.2	We're together. And our theme today in this podcast is the life-saving practice of clarifying expectations.
0:20.7	Amen to that.
0:21.6	That's true.
0:22.3	Life-saving.
0:23.0	Now, this is the third in this series of eight podcasts that we're doing around the
0:27.5	emotionally healthy relationship skills.
0:29.7	And these eight skills are so critical because they are the, in our opinion, the one of
0:36.7	the largest and most massive gaps in discipleship and leadership
0:41.9	training. And so it's life and death on so many different levels. Yeah, and I wouldn't say
0:47.8	just gap. I would say conditions without these skills, we create conditions of unnecessary pain.
0:56.9	Yeah, and unhealthy cultures, which we'll talk about.
0:59.4	So again, whether it applies to our families, other our teams, whether our churches or ministries,
1:03.7	whether even our workplaces, if we're in the marketplace.
1:06.5	So again, honey, we developed these skills over a very long period of time, decades,
1:12.0	and I've just finished our 4.0 version of it, of the videos and the workbook for most of the relationships.
1:17.4	And so it's all these decades to put in practice theology, which of course revolutionized
1:23.0	our life. Yes, especially the theology to love one's neighbor as oneself.
1:30.0	Exactly.
1:30.7	And so it's the part two of the emotionally healthy discipleship course.
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