Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. This is episode 2 of my

single on purpose series and today I want to talk to you about

loneliness and how to deal with loneliness. So if you're single loneliness is a

real thing and you don't have to deny it or white knuckle it or you know try to convince yourself that you're not lonely. I think that whenever you fight any feeling or suppress it you're actually going to

amplify it right the thing with feelings is that they're meant to be felt

through you and that's how they come and go, they flow, right?

And so if you are feeling lonely, I think the first step is to be okay with it.

You know, it's radical acceptance.

It's accepting that you're lonely.

Now, just because you're lonely doesn't mean

that you are defective or unattractive or you know whatever you tie to loneliness.

So the first thing is loneliness is a feeling it's a normal feeling we all go through it and

Isn't it better to feel lonely when you're single than when you're in a relationship? I mean, I would 100 times more feel,

want to feel lonely when I'm single,

because when you're feeling lonely in a relationship,

that spells a lot more trouble.

It's a lot more complicated.

When you're single, it's gonna flow. It'll come and go, right? So from my book, Single On Purpose, I want to just

raise you something. Loneliness is a real thing when you're single. That's why I'm starting there because most of us

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