Hey, the bird show. Your flirting isn't working because you're not trying hard enough,

and it's not your fault. It's because guys are clueless. This is on Jay Shetty's podcast.

How do you let someone know that they should make a move without giving it away?

It's a phenomenon called signal amplification bias. We tend to think we are over obvious with our cues. So if you're in a bar,

they literally studied singles in a like bar nightclub setting. Women and men who think they

are being obvious with their flirtation cues, the other person has no idea. Okay? That's so good.

They observed singles mingling, and they counted each person's flirtatious signals towards

other people in the room.

They found in 10 minutes, how many signals do you think it took for a woman to show a man

she was interested?

Now that you've given me some sort of, I'm going to go 30.

29.

Oh, okay, cool.

That's it.

But do you know how many signals that is in 10 minutes?

That's a lot of signals.

That is pretty constant.

Well, I probably would have said, 3, 7.

That is what women think.

I sent three flirty glances and he just didn't come over.

He's not interested. No, he didn't see him or he doubted himself. It took 29

signals in 10 minutes to get approached. So the other person went, oh, she's interested, just

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