It's the virtue. So they know that if they attend this funeral, it could completely rock

the deceased's family. Yet they're still thinking about going because they want to be respectful.

All right, I'll give you the details in a second. But if you ask something going on in

your life, you want to share with us, we throw it out to virtue fam. Try to get you guys

some different perspectives. Hit us up at thebertshow.com. And I believe Cassie has an email.

Hi, virtue. New listeners since the start of COVID and love all the advice shared.

So now it's my turn. And this one is kind of taboo. So I'd like all this to remain anonymous.

Three years ago, my spouse and I met a much older man. We'll call him Sam, that we happened to

get along with very well. We became great friends with piano playing benefits. We knew from Sam

telling us his life story that he and his wife used to be active in this kind of lifestyle. But for

their own reasons, she stopped and they came to an agreement to live as friends.

For those of you that are a new virtue listener, we refer to playing the piano as something more

intimate, just in case kids are listening. There you go. She, however, didn't want to see or hear

of his escapades. So after meeting his wife casually on two occasions, I came to realize that always

true after she mentioned to me that they lived as friends. She was definitely not aware of our

circumstances with her husband. But I think after meeting her, she was suspicious. We quote

dated regularly and he was so much a part of our lives that he and I spoke via text for hours

every day and got together as often as our schedules would allow. In March of this year, Sam passed

the way in accident just hours after speaking to him. We were devastated. So here's my question.

Do we go to the celebration of life or not? We want to respect his family, but he was part of

hours too. I think we shouldn't because of so many unknown factors. His wife and family were not

aware of our relationship with her husband, but the wife possibly suspected, I think. His phone

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