Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

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🗓️ 20 September 2022

⏱️ 28 minutes

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In this episode, I coach Amber and address the question, “Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?” Amber’s ex-husband is getting married and moving away at the end of the year. Her children are struggling with the fact that he will be spending less time with them, and Amber is feeling the stress of even more being put on her plate as her husband’s custody of their children will decrease.What initially started as a conversation about if her ex is doing the righ...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your faith. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships. Join me here every week as I coach a
0:40.2	listener through a specific challenge and empower them with tools to find healing. I'm so excited to
0:46.5	welcome Amber to the show. Welcome, Amber. Thank you so much for having me. It's so nice to meet you.
0:51.9	Nice to meet you too. What is your question for me today?
0:56.0	Well, I have a lot of stuff going on. I divorced and been divorced for four years and have two
1:03.4	teenagers and their dad is getting married before the end of the year and a lot of discussion with a lot of
1:12.5	divorces about if you should put your spouse and marriage, your new spouse and marriage
1:19.2	above your children. And everyone is free to make their own choice, obviously, and have their
1:26.4	own beliefs and stuff regarding that.
1:28.5	But my kids' therapists shared her opinion with me, and I just don't agree.
1:34.1	And that's hard.
1:36.0	And a lot of stepmoms that weren't married before, that married a man that had children before,
1:41.6	or, you know, like they want their marriage to be first.
1:44.4	Everyone wants to be chosen first, right? And I understand those things, but children are dependent
1:50.1	on you and you're responsible for them. They didn't ask to be born. And in adults, like,
1:55.8	they can take care of themselves. So I feel like our responsibility is to our kids. And I've deliberately
2:04.3	chosen not to date because I didn't want to add one more thing to the stress and change and trauma
2:11.4	that my kids have been going through since our divorce. And because they're having that on the other
2:17.1	side with their dad. And I needed to
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