Get it the virtue man. I hated this as a kid, but I never had any saying the matter.

My parents would invite their friends over to the house for drinks or dinner or what have you

and there I am like, I don't know, five, six years old, you know, playing by myself, you know,

because my parents would forget that they had a kid and all. And then you know, when it's time

to go to bed, my parents saying, okay, uh, birds going to bed, bird gives, blanket hug, give blank

a hug and you just going and it's weird, it's weird as a kid, right? I don't know you. And here I

am getting like hugged and it was just sort of expected, right? But times they are a change in.

But times they are a change in, right? Uh, how are you going to handle that with Jimmy? Oh, I mean,

I don't, we are by far and I think Cassie and I are on the exact same page. We don't force any hugs,

any showcases of affection if Jimmy wants to. Great. If he doesn't, he doesn't. And not even

goes for Bart and I like, I don't say give me a kiss. I go, Jimmy, come on, I have a kiss. And if

he wants to give you one, he does, if he doesn't, he doesn't. So, and I mean, this is going to go with,

and we always say, hey, do you want to give so and so? We don't say give this person a hug.

Be like, do you want to give like he gets to see his girlfriends all the time Ruby and Ren? Do

you want to give Ruby a hug? And then if he wants to, he does. And even at 18 months, we're letting him,

God, he's 19 months now, letting him make those decisions. Same here. And it is the hardest thing when

you say, can Mama have a hug? And they go, no, and they walk away and you're just like, oh, God,

I want to grab you and squeeze you so bad, but I can't. And it's all about same thing with Hazel.

If we're holding her, she says put me down. We put her down immediately. She doesn't even need to

say please, like, trying to teach her that she does not have to do anything with her body,

that she doesn't want to. Now, I have figured out a good work around cast. So whenever I ask Jimmy,

if Mama can have a have a kiss and he's like, no, where he pushes me away. If Bart's holding him,

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