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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury and welcome to Unruffold.

This week I'm responding to a short note from a mom who has been working at avoiding

using the words no and don't with her 18 month old.

But she's becoming concerned that her child maybe should have these in her social vocabulary

so that she can understand boundaries and assert herself.

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Dear Janet, given we minimize slash avoid the use of the words no, don't, and stop with

our 18 month old, how do we share with him these words for his own use and safety?

These words seem crucial in helping children and adults draw boundaries and assert their

needs and preferences.

Thank you.

Okay, so I'm not sure where exactly this parent got the impression that these words should

be avoided.

I mean, I think if we're saying no, no, no, all the time, then yes, our child will tend

to tune that out.

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