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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury and welcome to Unruffled.

In this episode, I'm going to be responding to a letter from a mother.

She's a single mother and she describes her relationship with her nearly four-year-old

as close and respectful.

Yet she and her daughter seem to be in conflict much of the time.

And her daughter is saying no to everything.

Dear Janet, I read your blog and your posts and each time I read them, they make perfect

sense and I say, yes, I will do that.

I can be a better mum, more patient, more available, more tolerant.

But the truth is, I find myself in conflict with my daughter and it now feels as if it

is on a daily basis.

My daughter is strong-willed and currently says no to everything I request.

She starts school in September.

I feel our relationship that is very close is deteriorating.

She won't go to the toilet.

We'll pee in her pants instead.

She won't hold my hand across the road.

She won't sit at the dinner table.

She will crawl underneath it.

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