victim energy control issues and fear of healing oh my healing isn't just about feeling better. It's about confronting the parts

of ourselves that learned survival meant control, meant helplessness, meant staying small. It's about

realizing that real change feels terrifying when staying stuck once kept you safe.

There are parts of us that still believe.

If I stay in control, I won't get hurt.

If I don't hope for better, I won't be disappointed.

If I stay connected to pain, at least I'm connected to something.

It's no wonder letting go of control feels like death. it's no wonder healing feels like losing part of yourself it's no wonder some of us live from a place of helplessness

gravitated toward dysfunction or struggled to believe we could ever choose anything different

the truth is none of these patterns make you broken. They make you

brilliant. They are the strategies you built to survive a world that didn't always feel safe.

But what kept you safe then is now keeping you stuck. And healing, real healing,

means feeling the fear, feeling the grief, feeling to discomfort,

and still choosing to move forward anyway.

Some food for thought for you guys.

What does control look like for you when you're scared?

What story about yourself or your relationship feels hard to let go of?

And what might happen if you stop seeing yourself through the lens of your wounds. So when it comes to the fear of healing

and the fear of growth for me, there is a part of me that feels like absolutely terrified that all of the forward progress that I'm

making is somehow not sustainable and like this fear that I'm going to like hit a wall or you know,

it's just like all going to come crashing down or somehow I'm just going to have the rug pulled out from underneath me.

And, you know, even though I can see all of the growth, but still at times doesn't feel safe inside, there is a part of me that is just still afraid that like I'm just not going to be able to figure

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