The Power of Detachment: A Mother and Daughter’s Story of Addiction, Codependency and Healing
Adult Child
Andrea
4.9 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 30 April 2025
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
What if the most loving thing you can do... is let go? This episode is a powerful reminder that healing sometimes means detaching—even from the people we love most.
In this episode, I’m joined by Kristina Wandzilak & Constance Curry , the mother-daughter duo behind the memoir The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter’s Worst Nightmare. Their story is a raw and honest account of Kristina’s battle with addiction and Karen’s journey of learning how to love her daughter without losing herself.
Key Takeaways...
- Detachment is love, not abandonment. Sometimes the most compassionate choice is stepping back and letting loved ones face their own consequences.
- Healing codependency starts with boundaries. Connie's recovery began when she stopped trying to save her daughter and focused on saving herself.
- Sobriety is just the beginning. Kristina reminds us that the real healing often starts after getting sober—and it’s a lifelong process.
- One person’s healing shifts the whole system. Connie's growth rippled through the entire family, proving real change doesn’t require everyone to get on board.
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| 0:30.3 | Detachment is letting another person experience their consequences |
| 0:34.1 | instead of taking responsibility for them yourself. |
| 0:39.3 | My name is Andrea and this is Adult Child. Welcome back to Adult Child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. |
| 1:02.3 | Ahoy, my dear shit shows. |
| 1:04.8 | For any new listeners, my name is Andrea. |
| 1:07.2 | I am a total and complete shit show. |
| 1:09.3 | I'm the captain of this hot mess of a ship. And if you're |
| 1:12.0 | wondering what the hell an adult child is, an adult child is somebody who's unresolved childhood |
| 1:17.0 | surfaces and plays out in adulthood and not in a good way, folks, people pleasing, codependency, |
| 1:23.9 | approval seeking, fear of people, fear of authority figures, fear of abandonment, addiction to excitement, an of People, Fear of Authority Figures, Fear of Abanement, Addiction to |
| 1:29.3 | Excitement, an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, an inability to say no, feeling guilty |
| 1:34.6 | standing up for yourself. And that's just to name a few, okay, of the nice, nice side effects that |
| 1:39.7 | we're dealing with here. And this is the podcast where we talk about what the hell to do about it. So today, |
| 1:45.5 | folks, we are going all the way back to adult child episode nine, where I spoke with the mother |
| 1:55.9 | daughter duo behind the memoir, The Lost Years surviving a mother and daughter's worst nightmare. |
| 2:02.9 | And let me tell you, this book truly has something for everyone, okay? |
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