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Happy Tuesday.

Welcome to the fifth thing, the bonus episode to the Four Things podcast where I share

emails that you have sent in.

Today we cover what to do when your boyfriend thinks it's okay to comment on other people's bodies.

I've got a tip from a listener involving mayonnaise, understanding pure grace, and then also my

skincare routine. But before we get into all of that, I always start off Tuesday episodes with a

quote. And today's is from Amanda Gorman. You know,

we were all moved by her reading of the inauguration poem, The Hill We Climb. And I love the last

few lines of the poem, as a lot of people did. And I knew that that would have to be this

week's quote. I'm sure you've seen it all over Instagram the last several days,

but I hope her words will just inspire us to always be the light. And this is how she

ended her point. For there is always light, if only we're brave enough to see it. If only we're

brave enough to be it. Okay, my first email today is from Anonymous. Hey, Amy, my boyfriend

and I just spent a weekend traveling to his best friend's house. I noticed some things that are a little

concerning to me and brought them up with him, including a change in his sense of humor with his

friend. So many times this weekend, he made a joke at someone else's

expense or made a comment on the way someone looks. Granted, never to someone who we were with or

someone in person, just someone who came up in conversation. He has never done this before in

front of me. And we've been together for about six months. Anyway, when I brought it up,

he didn't see a problem with commenting on the way someone looks in any context. I tried to ask him,

well, why does it matter how the person looks? And he would ask me the same thing. Why does it

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