Hello and welcome back to the sad to savage podcast. I'm your host, Shelby Sacco Spinnick,

and in today's episode, we're going from settling to standards. I think I've told you guys

this before, every time I start podcasting, I cannot catch my breath. And I don't know why,

but I'm really excited for this episode because it's going to be a little bit different

than the two previous episodes in this little mini series, because I'm really excited for this episode because it's going to be a little bit different than the

two previous episodes in this little mini series because I'm going to go over the science behind

settling and the science behind the power of standards. And then I'm going to talk you through

three new habits to build that will help you go from settling to standards instead of giving

you guys kind of the option.

You got to do what I say. Just a reminder that every single episode in this mini series that I'm doing for season four has a worksheet that goes with it because I'm kind of teaching a lot. So if you want

that, it's linked in the description of this episode. And also I'm doing videos and they're on

YouTube linked also in this episode if you want to

watch along with the podcast. This episode is going to be focusing on relationship standards and

self-value but when I say like relationships it doesn't have to be just a romantic relationship

with the partner. While we talk through these, I want you to think of your own lives and relationships.

You can think about your friends, your family, co-workers, your romantic partner. Just think about your life while we're going through this. This episode is focusing on teaching you skills that will help you build self-value. And then at the end of the episode, I'm going to share my own experience with it, the habits that we're teaching, and how they personally have helped me from my previous relationship

before my marriage. Now to kick things off, I want to talk about what is settling, like the actual

definition, the actual overview go in depth into it before we go into the science behind it.

Now, I literally just asked Google because for all of these episodes, I'm researching deeper than just Google. But I said,

hey, what is settling in a relationship? What does that mean? And it said, settling in a relationship

means that you're choosing to stay with someone despite knowing that your needs, wants,

or expectations are not being met. Also kind of think about this, like in a friendship,

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