Because I think when you aren't used to taking care of yourself or you're not used to putting

yourself first and you're used to putting everyone else's needs above yours, it feels uncomfortable

to take care of yourself. You know, you want to be mean to yourself. You think like being

mean to yourself and not caring for yourself is like how you'll get to where you want to be.

But I like the compassion approach because in my work in focusing on

black women, a lot of how we feel about ourselves is being dehumanized by society.

Hey, VA fam, welcome back to the show. I'm so excited to be joined by today's guest. It is therapist

and author Aludera Adio. She is the mind behind the bestselling book, self-care for black women 150 ways to radically accept and prioritize your mind, body, and soul. Al-Udera has also expanded that book. She got coloring books, y'all. She got meditations and she has a brand new

deck of cards that we can actually use. It's very fun to accompany that book as well. We're going to

talk about the self-care for black women deck. We're going to talk about her bestselling book. We're

going to talk about her career. Oladera went from a successful career in media to doing really

deep work in supporting black women's mental health.

Her tools are packed with practical bite-sized rituals that you can actually use in real life.

So we're going to talk about what self-care really looks like for black woman, how you can set boundaries without guilt and some small daily practices that we

can all do to help us feel more grounded, seeing, and supported. And if we're lucky, I might talk to her

a little bit about bad bunny because I have her on her socials and I do know her secret, which is not a

secret. She's being a bad bunny man. Welcome to the show, Aludera.

Thank you for having me.

I'm excited to be here.

Yeah, it feels like a long time coming.

So tell me about your journey from media to becoming a therapist to bestselling self-help

author.

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