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The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

SC 21 – 3 Types Of Fights

The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7999 Ratings

🗓️ 25 October 2015

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Most of the time, when we fight with a partner, we “bicker” or go in circles because we are missing what the fight is really about.  In this episode we examine the 3 things people fight about most.  It will be essential to listen to this so you know what the deeper layer of your fights are really about.  Why does this matter?  So you can get to the real issue and resolve it.

SHOWNOTES:

  • The 3 types of fights [6:40]
  • Type 1: Security fight – “I don’t feel safe” [7:40]
  • Type 2: Past resentments – Stuff you’ve never dealt with. [11:00]
  • Type 3: Dealing with small, everyday stuff [14:00]
  • Fight, Flight, Freeze – The 3 styles of dealing with conflict [24:40]

Transcript

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0:00.0

I can't believe you're a professional golfer. I think you should be working at the snack bar.

0:06.0

You better relax Bob. There is no way that you could have been as bad at hockey as you are at golf.

0:12.0

All right, let's go. been as bad at hockey as you are at golf.

0:12.8

All right, let's go.

0:15.9

You like that old man?

0:17.2

You want a piece of me?

0:19.6

I want a piece of you.

0:21.2

I want the whole thing.

0:22.8

Oh!

0:23.8

Oh! Oh! Oh! Hey what's up Jason Gatis here back with another episode of the smart couple.

0:38.2

I'm glad you're here. Remember this podcast is designed to help you with your relationship life.

0:45.0

And I believe we come up with some really efficient tools and effective tools to help you go to the next level in your relationships.

0:56.7

So we cover everything from conflict to sex to boundary setting, affairs, and how to avoid unnecessary pain so that you can get exactly what you want in a relationship.

1:12.0

And in this episode, we are going to tackle another layer of fighting.

1:17.0

I want to talk to you about this because I'd say it's one of the biggest barriers that keeps people from going the distance in relationships is the inability or unwillingness to handle the confrontation, the conflict, the drama, the upset that when two people

1:40.8

bump up against each other after the honeymoon phase is over and

1:45.4

chick gets real. So most people are pretty incompetent here. I certainly was.

1:52.7

And when you don't learn this stuff,

1:57.2

there's no possible way you can go to the next level.

2:01.6

You will go horizontal in your development. If you want to avoid

2:06.7

conflict and make everything copacetic and peaceful in your

2:13.7

relationship, you're gonna make a horizontal move, which is fine if you want that.

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