So, All right, welcome to the Smart Couple Podcast Show.

Ask Me Anything episode where I quickly answer a question

from you, the listener.

And this one is from anonymous. Not the anonymous that wears the funky mask, but anonymous. Not the anonymous that wears the funky mask but anonymous, you know.

That's just who it's from.

I feel like I'm doing my part setting boundaries, communicating my needs, and asking for what I want.

Nice, good job. What else can I try?

Okay, that's the question. Now let me give you the backstory. I've done the work to learn how to express and articulate my needs, how I want to be treated, what's not okay with me, behavior that's hurtful very clearly with specific behaviors, and setting clear boundaries.

Some of the behaviors continue even though I've clearly told him I won't tolerate it anymore.

I come home pissed off or come home pissed off that the house is a bit messy.

So is that you or him? Some of the behaviors continue even though I've clearly told him I won't tolerate it anymore.

I'm guessing like coming home pissed off that the house is a bit messy?

Is that he comes home pissed off that the house is messy?

Or you? I'm guessing that's the behavior

you're not wanting to tolerate anymore or coming home pissed off that the house is messy or something

and you get pissed because it's messy.

What I tell him how his specific behavior impacts me?

I think you meant when I tell him how this specific behavior impacts me I often get a sarcastic I'm sorry you feel this way and he just doesn't listen to me

Anyone relate to that one?

So she's saying, okay, the behavior impacts me a certain way. Like I feel frustrated, I feel angry that the house is messy, and then he comes back with I'm sorry you feel that way.

That's kind of what I'm getting here based on your question here.

Okay. question here. Okay, this is good.

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