SC 146 - The Trap of Becoming Your Partner's Therapist - Danielle LaPorte

The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 999 Ratings

🗓️ 2 August 2017

⏱️ 83 minutes

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Summary

Ever feel like you're tolerating shitty behavior, shouldering the burden of being the ‘therapist’ in the relationship, or constantly giving to others (and talking yourself out of your own needs)?

Valuing ourselves and having confidence in our boundaries is key to getting more of what you want and less of what you don’t want - especially in relationship.

Danielle Laporte is an expert at helping women find their ‘white hot truth'. She’s got a gift for translating spirituality, self-help and ‘new age’ thinking into something more palatable for women who are growth-oriented and wanting more in their lives.

In this episode, we cover why it's a bad idea to be the therapist in the relationship, boundaries, feeling inadequate (and the lies that the 'new age' world sell us), thinking that we’re asking ‘too much,’ how to value yourself and much more.

SHOWNOTES

Danielle's story [11:00]
The difference between someone who learns from their pain vs someone who stays stuck [18:00]
How encouragement through childhood shapes who we grow into [19:00]
The trap of believing you’re ‘not enough’ and what Danielle calls the ‘Lie of Inadequacy’ [29:00]
The issue of inadequacy in relationship and what to do to counter feeling ‘not enough’ [36:00]
What is the “Spiritual Woman Trap”? [38:00]
Working with the inner-child to move toward wholeness [46:00]
Why boundaries matter to the growth-oriented person [47:00]
The ‘Poly movement’ - do open relationships work? [60:00]
Advice for men, women, and parents [66:00]

Transcript

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0:00.0	If my dude came to me and proposed an open relationship,
0:04.0	you know, because it was his next edge.
0:06.0	I love that. That's a really great one.
0:08.0	It's our next edge.
0:10.0	Yeah, you know, the growing edge is the door there, so, yeah. So, Hello and welcome back to the relationship schools Smart Couple
0:40.7	Podcast episode number 146. I'm your host Jason Gatis shouting
0:46.8	at you here from Boulder, Colorado, from the mountaintop. Just kidding.
0:51.4	I'm actually in my home here on the ground. Just kidding. I'm actually in my home here on the ground. And it's good to be here with you. I'm grateful for you. Guess why?
1:00.0	Well, other than just each week you bear with me here and you hopefully learn something.
1:05.0	But really, we have reached 1 million downloads.
1:09.0	Gulp? Yeah, 1 million.
1:12.0	1 million downloads is no small feat.
1:15.0	You know, I started this a couple years ago thinking,
1:19.0	I'll give it five sessions, and then that went well. And I said all right I'll do it for one year and if people like it I'll keep going.
1:29.0	So I don't always know as I say sometimes because some of you never email me there's no reviews it's just you're listening and so it's like I'm talking into space
1:40.5	So if this is valuable please keep sharing it with a friend or leave us a review and send us an email if you like and just say thank you.
1:50.0	That's totally cool. We don't know really the impact we're having.
1:53.0	It's kind of a mystery.
1:54.0	But when we see stats like a million downloads,
1:58.0	I'm like, oh, you know, and I see the upward trend over time,
2:02.0	I'm like, okay okay something's working here so anyway
2:05.2	thank you thank you for listening and what do we do here we are all about
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