SC 105 - Partner Not Meeting Your Sexual Needs
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 13 March 2017
⏱️ 16 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Is it okay to go outside the marriage to get your sexual needs met? While this may seem like a straightforward answer, it's amazing to me how many folks ask this question who are having affairs. When is this okay and when is it not okay? Listen in for my opinions on the matter.
Question: I’m finally reading Mating in Captivity and it appears that I have a successful life partnership with my husband who I love deeply and care about, but enjoy a better sexual match with another man. The other man is not gender specific in our intimacy, which I am happy with, and is very emotionally available, whereas my husband is not. I’m feeling unhappy about the infidelity (sounds better than ‘cheating’) that the affair causes, but at the same time, don’t want it to end or my marriage to finish.
As selfish as this is, I’m ok with it. What does it mean when we go outside the cultural confines to get our non-negotiable needs met?
- Are you justifying an affair with bullshit? [4:00]
- The definition of a successful life partnership [6:00]
- Learning to be our neurotic, weird, true selves in relationship [9:00]
- If you’re not getting your sexual needs met, here’s what to do [11:00]
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | So, Welcome back to the Smart Couple Show and Podcast. |
| 0:20.0 | Welcome back to the Smart Couple Show and Podcast. |
| 0:26.0 | Today I've got a really intense question, |
| 0:29.3 | and I'm fired up to get into it about affairs. |
| 0:35.0 | Dun, done, done. |
| 0:40.0 | So just priming the pump, all right, for affairs. |
| 0:42.0 | It's a big one for people. So hopefully you've got your coffee, tea, vodka, water, |
| 0:48.6 | whatever you're drinking today. And we'll get right into it. |
| 0:55.0 | All right, so my question of the day for you is, how do you hold back in your relationships? |
| 1:10.8 | How do you hold back in your relationships? |
| 1:14.0 | Just one sentence, one word, I fight, I blame, I shut down, I withdraw. |
| 1:20.0 | I get scared, I don't tell the truth. |
| 1:23.0 | Just whatever it is. |
| 1:25.0 | So that's my question for you. |
| 1:26.0 | If you're just joining us the question of the day for you is how do you hold back in your relationships? |
| 1:32.0 | And no one's typing, which is fine. |
| 1:34.0 | You don't have to type. |
| 1:35.4 | But if you want to play, it's kind of fun to see like, |
| 1:38.4 | oh, I'm not alone, like other people do the same damn thing, |
| 1:40.8 | same down behavior, right? So feel free to share. All right. So here's the |
| 1:47.0 | question of the day, listen up, all right? So you have the context for our |
| 1:50.8 | conversation today. This is an edgy important question. |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Jayson Gaddis, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Jayson Gaddis and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.