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Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast Episode 887

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 24 October 2023

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Is there a homo bro code? A man hooked up with his casual boyfriend’s roommate. Then the boyfriend moved away and they broke up peacefully. Now the caller is worried about resuming his hook-ups with the roommate for fear his ex’s friends will find out and revolt. Does this happen in gayland? A woman is willing to indulge in hot-wifing to please her husband. She met a new guy, but finds she gets so worked up and horny that it eats up all the headspace in her already busy life. How can she learn to chill out and sleep with another dude already? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Alicia Roth Weigel, intersex rights activist and author of “Inverse Cowgirl.” They talk about what it means to be intersex, how there may be many more intersex people in the population than we assumed, and how humans are on a gender/sexuality spectrum. Don’t miss this one.  A queer woman and her girlfriend have been together for 15 years and they raise a child together. Their relationship has always been open, but the caller’s partner only dated men…until now. She has fallen in love with another woman who lives far away. This creates a logistical burden, as she has to leave the caller alone with the kid when she goes to visit, not to mention the emotional threat this new woman brings. The caller does not want a new lover to be a part of her kid's upbringing. The partner does. Oy vey! Q@Savage.Love      206-302-2064 Find Alicia Roth Weigel on Instagram at xoxy_alicia.

Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast at savage.love.

0:05.0

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,

0:08.8

or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:14.5

well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast. I want to admit to a bias, a bias shared by all advice columnists and advice podcasters everywhere.

0:29.3

We're biased in favor of the solvable problem.

0:33.0

If there's something we can say that might be helpful or constructive, we want to say it.

0:37.3

It's been a little

0:37.9

more than two weeks since Hamas terrorists murdered more than 1,400 innocent Israeli civilians,

0:43.5

men, women, children, infants. And two weeks since Israel began reprisals against Hamas, reprisals

0:50.8

that are killing innocent Palestinian civilians in Gaza, men, women, children, infants.

0:57.0

And I haven't said anything because I don't think there's anything I could say that would be helpful or constructive.

1:05.0

If someone doesn't say something or doesn't say something right away, it's not because they don't care. I do care. I try to be mindful, though, of what people come to a show like this for.

1:15.6

People come for a break from the horrors of the news.

1:18.6

I'm obsessed with the war in Ukraine, a Russian war of aggression against Ukraine,

1:22.6

and I follow the news of that war very closely,

1:25.6

but I haven't talked about it much here because, again,

1:28.7

I don't think there's anything helpful or constructive I could say, or say here. There are tons of

1:34.6

news and current event podcasts out there. I hope you're listening to a lot of those too, but news

1:39.8

and current events aren't while you're listening to this podcast. You come here for a break.

1:44.6

A little diversion, maybe a little perversion. But I did want to say that I am aware of what

1:50.4

is going on and I am absolutely heartbroken and angry. I want all attacks on civilians to stop.

1:57.0

I want attacks, period, to stop. I want the hostages freed. I want the water turned on. I want Israel

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