Savage Lovecast Episode 809

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 26 April 2022

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

A gay man discovered that his friend had a nude photo of him on his phone. The caller had asked him to take the picture so he could edit it and send it to someone. But the friend kept the pic for himself and sent it to other people without the caller’s knowledge or consent. So. Can they still be friends? How bad is this? A queer woman has been on 2 dates with a gal, and they are getting along really well. The caller did a deep internet search and discovered that her date is in fact trans. Not only had the woman not disclosed this, but she volunteered that she was cis, and talked about having period cramps in her youth. Lies? Why would she lie? The caller is very game to date a trans woman. How should she proceed? Our guest this week is Christine Emba, author of “Rethinking Sex: A Provocation.” And Dan was indeed provoked! They discuss her critique of sex culture in which attaining consent is considered a high bar to clear when in fact it is the very lowest bar. Choking? Sadism? What is wrong with us? They talk about kink-shaming, Armie Hammer, how to avoid terrible people and much more. A little is on the Micro, the whole fascinating thing is on the Magnum. And, a bisexual man and his wife have begun a wonderful triad with another bi man. But they have a 9 year-old daughter who will eventually catch on that mommy and daddy’s new friend is more than a friend. Should they tell her and get out in front of it before she thinks one of them is cheating? Send us your tricky questions please. voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to Allform.com/Savage. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter “Savage” for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast at savage.love.
0:05.1	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:14.6	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:23.2	Fuck Mary Kill.
0:25.0	You know the game, although it's really more of a thought experiment than a game.
0:28.8	Or maybe it's more of a personality test than a thought experiment.
0:31.5	Anyway, fuck Mary Kill.
0:33.5	Someone names three people, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, and you have to pick which one you would fuck, which one you would marry, and which one you would kill.
0:42.0	Bill, Jeff, Elon, I mean, obviously.
0:44.3	Anyway, late one night, I was tweeting in bed on my Helix mattress, which is also good for tweeting.
0:49.9	And I tweeted, fuck, marry, kill, but you can only name one person go.
0:56.3	Lots of responses to that tweet, lots of quote tweets.
0:59.9	And a little outrage because one or two people named Ivanka Trump and Marjorie Taylor Green.
1:05.5	And then a little more outrage as those got retweeted.
1:08.7	And yeah, so I decided to delete that tweet before it went
1:13.2	viral because I was going to bed and I didn't want to wake up the next morning to discover
1:17.3	that I was the main character that day on Twitter. The small amount of outrage my tweet generated
1:22.7	before I deleted it and went to sleep, this little outrage nightcap, it seemed weird to me because there are
1:29.6	lots of fuck Mary kill tweets all over Twitter that named three people, and they're not met
1:35.3	with any outrage. It's fine with the internet if you want to play fuck Mary Kill and name three people,
1:41.7	but if you name just one person, it's, quote, creepy and
1:46.4	quote, disturbing and quote, what the fuck is wrong with you, Dan? Nothing is wrong with me. If anything,
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