Savage Love Episode 71

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 26 February 2008

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

Time limit: Her boyfriend says he loves her, but he's not "in love" with her. How long should she put up with this sort of nonsense? Bitch: If you think your buddy's new girlfriend is a bitch, should you tell him so? What's the etiquette here? Death by dildo: Hear the sordid tale of a man who impaled himself on a dildo. True or false? Intervention time?: Her friend is being pimped out and abused by her boyfriend. What is the caller's responsibility as a friend? And more. There's always more. 206-302-2064.

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0:00.0	You're listening to a Stranger podcast, www.com.
0:05.7	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:15.2	well, there's nothing you can't ask on Savage Lovecast.
0:23.1	Hey everybody, welcome to another installment of the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.1	I'm Dan Savage.
0:27.2	And this, of course, is the once-a-week out-loud version of my sex advice column, Savage Love.
0:31.4	The way the podcast works, people call in and record questions.
0:35.3	The number, of course, if you want to record a question yourself for a future podcast, 206, 201, 2720. And then I go to a very small room next to a very noisy street, and every once in a while, the techsebi at-risk youth play the question for me, and then I just explode into this your microphone in my face. We have a lot of questions. We don't actually have much time today, so we're going to get right to it. Hi, Dan. I'm a 22-year-old female, and I've been in a
0:58.9	relationship for about a year. The guy I'm dating, he's 24, and he says he loves me, but he's not
1:07.1	in love with me. I'd ask him before about it. I told him I loved him and I've
1:12.8	asked him several times and each time I kind of break down and I worry about it and he says he
1:19.2	loves me and he says he's not in love with me or sometimes he says that he thinks he is but he's
1:24.4	not sure. This is my third serious relationship, and he has only had one before me, and it lasted
1:34.6	eight months, and he says he was in love with her, but he didn't actually know that
1:41.3	until they had broken up once before, and then when they got back together, he said that he knew that he was involved with her.
1:47.9	So he says it is a possibility that he's in love with me, but he doesn't know it.
1:53.8	I'm just wondering where I should go from here because I worry about it.
2:00.9	I worry that it's never going to happen and is a year too long.
2:06.1	Should he be in love with me by now?
2:08.2	I know it's, I guess it's different for everybody, but is there some sort of time limit on that?
2:13.1	He's asked me to move in with him a couple times, but I've told him that I can't because of that one thing that's lacking there.
2:22.4	Why would I move in with someone who's not in love with me when that's just going to kind of be a deal breaker in the end?
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