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Hey everybody, welcome to the Savage Lovecast.

I'm Dan Savage, and this is the once a week out loud version of my sex advice column, Savage Love, that runs in alternative weekly newspapers all over the universe.

The number here, if you'd like to record a question for a future podcast, 206, 201, 27, 20.

We have a lot of calls to get to.

Let's get to him.

Hi, Dan.

I love to call him, by the way.

And I've sort of a conundrum with my sex life, so I thought I'd call you.

So the problem is that I've been seeing this guy for a month, and we have, or two months that is, and we have really amazing sex, actually, like fringing on kinky, awesome.

And the issue is that, but we only have sex like once or twice a week.

And I have a really high sex drive, and so I confronted him about this.

And he said some things that I thought were kind of strange and bordering on repressive

about some kind of weird value system about how much, you know, sex should be had and, you know, better things to do with your time and whatnot, which I think is crazy because, you know, I've been in relationships where sometimes you just want to fuck, you know, and that's okay.

You know, it's not like you have to

justify it and, you know, listen to Mozart or something, you know what I mean? Um, instead. But,

you know, I'm just, I'm getting frustrated because I confronted him and, you know, he said these

things and thinking about dumping him. And I'm wondering if that's a little harsh.

It's not too harsh to dump him for this. But you're not going to be dumping him for the reasons that you think you're going to be dumping him. We have here as a failure to identify the real problem, which is a standard run-of-the-mill problem around sex drive. He has a lower sex drive than you do. but he's trying to couch his lower sex drive or wrap his lower sex drive up in moralistic language, try to make his low sex drive not just a

fact about him and a sex drive, but a virtue. And consequently, something that makes you look bad by

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