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Hey, everybody, welcome to another installment of the Savage Lovecast.

I'm Dan Savage.

And as I like to say every week, because I don't know what else to say at the beginning of the program,

this is the once a week out loud version of my sex advice column, Savage Love.

The way it works, if you're a new downloader, and we've got bunches of new ones, is people call in, they record a question, and I record an answer. Sometimes I call people back if I feel like it. 206, 201, 2720 is the number. If you'd like to record a question for a future podcast, and we have shitloads of questions to get to, so let's

tear into it.

I am a woman who loves giving blow jobs.

I will follow.

I will let them come all over me.

It doesn't really matter.

Because here's the thing.

There is a great deal of power and control in being a woman when you are giving a blowjob.

The trick is to not look at it as a demeaning act, but to absolutely look at it as a position of control.

That as a woman, you have an ability to bring a man literally to his knees and he, you entirely at your mercy.

And I think that's what you mean to tell the women callers out there.

You know, you say a lot about, you know, as women, we're told not to ask for what we want,

and we're not, you know, we're taught not to be aggressive.

And I think this goes along with it.

Absolutely.

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