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We're here to help. So let's go to the first question. Hey, this is Jeff, and I'm 36. I've been out for about

four years. Before that, I was married, so I had like an ex-wife and kids in the whole nine yards,

but I was just wondering, because I guess I'm still trying to figure this all out,

but I've discovered that it is very easy to hook up and have sex with men.

I mean, I'm a Craigslist expert, but I'm having a real difficult time, and it's really

discouraging when you try to do a more conventional, like, dating kind of scene where you get

to know somebody and you go out, whatever, talk, and just not get, I'm just finding that

it's like, that's like impossible, whereas like just

emailing back and forth and a meeting somewhere and then going back to your house or

a hotel is so much easier.

And I was just wondering, is it because maybe I'm in a large metropolitan city and it's that

way because there's so much to choose from or is that everywhere?

I mean, I guess I'm really, I'm just really confused, and I'm wondering what have I done? Because this is very discouraging. So you've discovered all on your own that it's easy to hook up and have sex with men. That's a remarkable discovery. I don't think anyone's ever discovered that before. It's new and uncharted territory.

Sorry to be an asshole, but it's early, and I'm a little hungover,

and so it's going to be asshole savage today.

Listen, there's some self-sorting that goes on in the gay dating world with a lot of overlap, like a Venn diagram.

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