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If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

while there's nothing you can't pass on the Savage Lovecast. So last week was really interesting for me.

So last week was really interesting for me personally and professionally.

The week sort of began with a couple of protests at my public speaking events, where I go to colleges and I do Savage Love Live Live Live, where I was protested not by the conservative Christian groups or the campus crusade for Christ on a cracker, but by queer groups, by the LGBT resource center who thinks I'm the enemy of the trans and the buy and everything else, which is, you know, whatever, kind of funny.

Like I've said some shit over the years that piss people off and I still have to address it. That's fine. And, you know, I was a self-righteous college activist once myself. It's nice to see that reflected back at me all these years later. But the week ended with me being attacked at the values voters summit. So that was my week. Attacked by queers who think I'm not a good enough queer and attacked by right wing fundamentalist Christian assholes who think I'm a danger to everything good and decent. Called heteronormative by the queer is called a dangerous sex

radical by the fundamentalist Christians. I don't know what to do. But what was interesting, what

they said at the Values Voters Summit, what they attacked, somebody gave a speech in which they

said, beware the monogamish, that their issue now increasingly with me is my long campaign against monogamy, which I am not actually against.

If monogamy is what you want to do, it makes you happy. I think you should be monogamous.

I just think everyone needs to admit that monogamy is difficult and that it's a struggle and that people are unlikely to execute

monogamy perfectly over the life of perhaps a multi-decade marriage and circumstances change

and what's important to you as a couple may change and later in life accommodations may

need to be made. And if we could just be realistic about it, I think more relationships

are likely to survive. That's my monogamy v. non-monogamy platform. I just want everyone

to be happy. And I'm a kind of conservative. Mark Oppenheimer kind of nailed me for that in

the New York Times that half of what I'm saying to people about monogamy is to make families

and relationships and couples, particularly couples with children, more stable,

not less stable.

One of the things that contributes to the instability of super long-term relationships are people

failing at this thing that we know people are very likely to fail at.

We kind of write the death warrant for a relationship at the beginning if we make the perfect

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