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Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 298

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 3 July 2012

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

A most magnanimous woman is married to a man who likes trans women. Instead of buying her an anniversary present, he bought himself time with a trans dominatrix. She wants to forgive.    A kinky widow is falling for a trans woman. But she isn't used to the staring and general hostility toward trans people. How can she tell her vanilla friends all about her new, interesting girlfriend?    Dan speaks with activist, sex educator and kinky blogger about losing the childhood shame around kinky desire.    And more, more, more.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at   Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.    Comment on this episode at

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0:00.0

You're listening to a Stranger podcast, www.com.

0:05.0

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:14.0

while there's nothing you can't ask on SavageMubcast.

0:23.6

Sometimes I talk too much about my marriage.

0:26.6

I'm just going to throw that out there.

0:28.6

Sometimes I talk too much about Terry and every once in a while I get a really furious, angry email from some bitter single,

0:34.6

bitter single, who is mad that I'm bragging about my perfect relationship.

0:42.0

And this person screams and yells about how, uh, so perfect, Terry, so perfect. You're so perfect.

0:48.3

And actually, you know, things aren't perfect. You don't go on and on in public about the shit that doesn't work about your relationship.

0:53.3

Other stuff that doesn't work about a relationship, There's stuff that doesn't work about our relationship.

0:55.2

Things we choose to overlook, things we realize now after all these years together can never be

0:59.6

reconciled so we stop drying to reconcile them.

1:04.4

Terry drives me up the walls in some ways.

1:06.3

There are times when I am convinced that the only sensible bone in his body is mine.

1:12.3

I can be a little depressive and angry and I get spun up. I get manic. I get, you know, you've listened to the

1:17.9

show. You know how I am. Imagine, you know, once a week for an hour or so. Okay. Imagine

1:23.8

living with me. It can't be easy.

1:35.9

But the one thing that I really think that really fucking drives you crazy, and it comes up every year about this time, is fireworks.

1:40.1

This is a red state, blue state thing, much more than like gay gay or anything.

1:43.2

This is I grew up in Chicago in a big city.

1:46.2

When you wanted to see fireworks on July 4th, you went to the lakefront and the city threw some fireworks into the sky for you. You didn't

1:50.8

drive to an Indian reservation and buy enough fucking explosives to take out Dresden, which is what Terry

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