You're listening to a Stranger podcast, www.thesanger.com.

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

while there's nothing you can't ask on Savage Lovecast.

So a couple weeks ago, a few weeks ago in Savage Love, I ran this letter that apparently

was a little controversial and I'm going to talk about that for just a minute.

There's this guy named Chad who has never had a girlfriend.

Everyone thinks he's gay.

He's pretty goddamn gay, according to all of his friends.

But he isn't gay.

Says he's not gay.

In fact, disparages gay people and insists that he's straight.

And one day, one of this person's friends, when Chad's friends, went on Grindr, which is the app that gay men used to find other gay men who want to be used.

And this guy started exchanging photographs with this other guy on Grindr, which is what people do.

And it turned out to be Chad.

And Chad sent a face pick.

And Chad is talking about his likes and dislikes around the homo sex that Chad in person has always insisted.

Chad has no interest in.

And here's Chad on Grindr, the gay pickup site, pickup app, talking all about the cockies sucked

and would like to suck and how he sucks it.

And this guy's friends, Chad's friends wrote to me saying, what do we do?

The question ended with, should we say something to Chad?

With letting him know he's been outed, be the best course of action, should we have a gayvention, which is not a gay convention, it's a gay intervention.

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