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Okay, John Edwards is a scumbag.

I don't want to defend John Edwards, but I feel I must speak in defense of other men who've cheated on their wives who have cancer.

I'm carving out a unique position here, and I'm not making light of cancer, terminal illnesses,

or what St. Elizabeth Edwards has been going through.

And John Edwards is clearly a cat and an asshole who ran roughshod over, you know,

his family and his staff and Riley Hunter and was just a piece of shit, right?

John Edwards, we are

casting aside. But in general, like generally, I was just on Joy Bihar show on CNN the other day,

and the subject of, you know, John, we're talking about Jen Edwards and just men who've cheated on

their wives who have cancer were dismissed out of hand.

You know, there's a point in a long-term relationship when, you know, your partner, if they have

a terminal illness, where you really shift from spouse and lover to nurse and caretaker.

And that can in some relationships last for five years,

10 years, decades. I know a person who slept with a man who was cheating on his wife. His wife was an invalid and he had stayed with her for 20 years and she was completely

bedrined and not really interested in sex and one of the ways he was able to stay with her

and be her loving caring attentive spouse was to on the sly get some of sexual needs met

so he would not go fucking bonkers insane and I want to know what people would advise that guy

all these people who say that if you're going to cheat on your wife, you must get divorced, you must leave her first, that that is the only ethical response. What they would have said to this man and his wife, who was bedridden and an invalid, that he should never have sex ever again, 20 years, 30 years, or he should have to have left her. That was the only ethical response. Or in that

instance, was it ethical for him to commit adultery and stay by his wife's side thanks to the

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