S22E8: Dating Again After You Thought You Found 'The One'

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 31 March 2026

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever had a relationship where you thought "this is it" only for it to crumble right before your eyes? Add in if there was any infidelity or other betrayals and ooph – no wonder it's hard to get back into dating and trust again. We're talking to Greg about what he's discovered 3 years post-divorce about dating again, navigating the apps, and healing through it all. We discuss what it means to date with your values at the forefront even after betrayal, ways to really confront the trauma so it doesn't follow you into the next relationship, and how to rebuild trust in yourself (and others) so you can ultimately find happiness again. TW: While overall this conversation is very positive, there are mentions of infidelity and suicidal thoughts at the beginning. ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.E.S.U. And I'm Julie Craftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into
0:06.7	everything, modern dating and relationships. Welcome to Datable.
0:14.8	Hello, friends. Welcome back to another episode of Datable. I am honored to bring one of my favorite
0:24.6	people on this show. And I think, Julie, he's quickly becoming one of your favorite people as well.
0:29.7	Yes. It might have been my idea to have him on the show. True. It is. And every time I talk,
0:35.5	I bring him up, you're like, he's so wonderful. And he is. He is my neighbor and friend Greg, who has been through a lot. And he's finally ready to share his story. And let's just say he was a little nervous to be interviewed. The thing is, I don't think I actually even knew his full story when I was like,
0:55.2	we need to get him on the podcast. But I've been to your house a couple of times. He's your neighbor.
0:59.7	So just, I've gotten to know him a bit. And I'm like, he's just a genuine person. You know how
1:04.2	like you meet those people and you're like, they're a good human. They're a good person. And I like
1:08.9	his take two because he's clearly, you know, been through
1:13.1	a devastating divorce and started dating again, which we'll talk about. But it's also really
1:18.5	interesting to hear, I mean, first of all, a lot of people are in this position, but then also
1:22.8	just hearing about dating from fresh eyes and new perspective. So yeah, it's a really good one. And we're
1:29.3	glad that we got him on the show. Let me just set the scene for you of how I met Greg. Remember,
1:34.4	I went to Greece after my devastating breakup due to infidelity. So I went to Greece to heal myself.
1:40.1	And at the time, I knew that my neighbor at that time was moving out.
1:45.0	So I knew I was coming back to someone new.
1:47.1	The day I get back from Greece, all I see is this shirtless man walking around in this unit next to mine.
1:56.4	And he's like singing a song, his music is loud.
1:59.6	And I was like, thank you, universe for delivering
2:02.5	this ray of sunshine to my building. Because the guy that lived there before wasn't such a dog,
2:08.9	like not really bad energy. Not a ray of sunshine. Not a ray of sunshine. And Greg comes out,
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