S22E7: Secrets From A Modern Matchmaker w/ Jaydi Kuba Samuels

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 24 March 2026

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

Whether you've tried matchmaking yourself or just learned about it from TV, we're giving you a behind the scenes look into the art of the setup and what it truly means to have success when using a matchmaker. We're chatting with Jaydi Samuels Kuba, a Hollywood matchmaker, about all the challenges and benefits of matchmaking – and how to make it work for you. We discuss what she's learned from years of observing dates (you'd be surprised at the nervous dating habits that come up!), how to understand client preferences vs dealbreakers to bring them the best match, and the ways she's helped so many clients (including herself!) have their last first date. To learn more about Jaydi follow her @matchmadeinhollywood and go to https://www.ljmatchmaking.com/. Get her new book 'Your Last First Date: Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker' wherever books are sold. ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.E. Shue. And I'm Julie Kraftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into
0:06.8	everything, modern dating and relationships. Welcome to Datable.
0:14.8	Hello, friends. Welcome back to another episode of Datable. We have another return guest who is here to celebrate her new book, but also to show us behind the scenes of matchmaking. Her name is J.D. Samuels Cuba. And she is the founder of L.J. Matchmaking, a boutique matchmaking company in L.A., where her and her business partner, Lauren,
0:40.9	have been called The Love Agents of Hollywood.
0:43.7	And we had them on our show back in 2024. It was season 19, episode 18, called An Insider's Look
0:50.4	into Matchmaking. But we're back here today to talk about J.D.'s new book,
0:55.0	Your Last First Date, Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker, which is out now.
0:59.3	And in this episode, we're going to discuss the recent surge of interest in matchmaking,
1:04.9	primarily due to dating app fatigue. Yes. And the differences between the different
1:10.1	matchmaking companies, what you should be
1:12.2	looking for if you're thinking about using a matchmaker, and what they use for their success
1:17.2	metrics. Yeah, this was really fascinating to hear her take on it. But what's even more interesting
1:22.7	is her own story of how she met her husband through matchmaking and what both of them had to release around their own criteria to recognize a good match when they saw it.
1:33.9	Yes.
1:34.3	She gives such great insight into the type of daters that are out there, how their date personas show up that may not be reflective of who they really are.
1:44.1	And we talk about this a lot, your date
1:46.3	self versus your authentic self. And she actually names them like the babblers and the different
1:52.1	types. I won't give the rest away. But I love it. She has so much intel of just working with so
1:57.1	many people that are going on dates. And you really get to see like a behind the scenes look
2:02.4	into how matchmaking works, but also just her experience with people and dating and what she's
2:09.0	picked up along the way. She definitely has learned a lot about dating and applied that to a lot of
2:14.2	her dating coaching as well in addition to the matchmaking. And we've done sort of a similar
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