S22E6: The Psychology of Relationships

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2026

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Why do some relationships thrive while others seem to fall apart? The answer isn't luck; it's psychology. Join us as we dive into the next phase of long-term committed relationships and the 6 pillars we believe are truly the foundation of a partnership. We're discussing how to navigate the recurring cycles of a relationship fueled by both of your individual patterns and histories, why it's not just communication – but repair – that's the glue to a relationship, and ways to build better habits to strengthen your relationship (or prepare you for when you inevitably enter one in the near future!) Enjoy! If you liked this, subscribe to other podcast too 'The Psychology of Relationships' on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts. ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.S.U. And I'm Julie Craftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into everything, modern dating and relationships. Welcome to Datable.
0:14.4	Hello, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of Datable. We've been talking about dating and everything related to dating for a decade. And now we're ready for that next season. And what could that be?
0:30.0	Diving into relationships. And, you know, over the years, we've talked to so many world-renowned therapists, psychologists, PhDs, sex educators,
0:41.1	relationship coaches. The list goes on and on. And I think for both of us, really understanding
0:46.5	the psychology behind why we do what we do and how we interact with other human beings has
0:52.8	always been fascinating.
0:59.3	And I think when you look at it more, when you are with someone else, you're not just dating the person.
1:04.5	You're dating their needs, their history, their fears, their vulnerabilities.
1:08.4	And a lot of that really is where the psychology is at play. And when we talk about dating, that's really just one part of the story.
1:12.4	And for so much of the coaching and resources out there, it's related to getting into a relationship.
1:20.1	But that's not where it ends. We've also found that's actually where a whole new set of stories and patterns start. So why don't we start this new
1:31.6	chapter of our podcast, which is putting two people or two or more people who are mere strangers
1:38.2	into this social experiment that we call relationships. And don't worry, we're not going to stop
1:43.4	talking about dating. We're very much going to't worry, we're not going to stop talking about dating.
1:44.7	We're very much going to keep that topic. We are going to also, though, be introducing a new
1:50.9	podcast that we have called The Psychology of Relationships that's going to focus on more of
1:56.7	these topics. So if you're someone that can't get enough of everything, please also go over
2:03.1	there on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, wherever you get your podcast and follow us, rate and review as well.
2:09.2	Or if you're someone that's been with us through different seasons, maybe you join Datable
2:14.2	when you were just starting to date. And now you find yourself in a committed
2:18.2	partnership. And you want to like really just like understand, okay, how do we weather these
2:23.9	different chapters? This is really going to be for you. I think especially for UA and I too, like we're
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