S22E4: Dating, Relationships & Having Kids In Midlife w/ Claire & James Davis

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Sexuality, Social Sciences, Relationships, Science, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 3 March 2026

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Whether you're approaching 40 or have cleared this milestone, you may be feeling anxious about what's to come. We're talking to James & Claire Davis, better known as the Midlife Mentors, who are shedding some light on the evolving definition of midlife and how we can move from fearing this next chapter to recognizing its opportunity. We're discussing the hormonal and health changes that occur in both women and men, the shifts that happen in this next stage of life when dating new people and within our existing relationships, and ways we can reimagine these next couple decades in our own terms, not societies. To learn more about Claire & James go to https://themidlifementors.com/ and listen to their podcast 'Midlife Mentors' wherever you listen to podcasts. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.E. Shue. And I'm Julie Craftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into
0:06.8	everything, modern dating and relationships. Welcome to Datable. Hello, friends. Welcome back to
0:19.6	another episode of Datable. We are, Julie and I are officially in our midlife, but I think as our longevity extends with all of the science and AI that we have in our world, we might not be midlife for too long. I hope that. We might be like first, third life. But right now, technically,
0:38.7	we are in our midlife. And there's a lot of things that happen in midlife that you don't really
0:44.2	know till you get into this phase. Midlife, there could be an aspect that's scary about it,
0:50.9	but there's also a lot that's very beautiful. And we're so excited to be joined
0:55.0	today in conversation with James and Claire Davis, who are the husband and wife team behind
1:01.2	the midlife mentors. Listen, if you have mentors for work, why not have mentors for life?
1:07.6	We need that. And they're the perfect coupling because they talk about their journey through
1:14.1	divorce, not with each other, but previous divorces, finding love with each other and creating a
1:18.8	business together to help people live their happiest, fullest, healthiest midlife. And yeah,
1:24.4	a lot of you probably can relate to this as the two of us. We are in our 40s. So if you are
1:30.0	there yourself or approaching it or older than 40, then this is very applicable. And in this
1:36.9	episode, we're going to really dive into the shifts of how people approach dating, relationships,
1:43.0	and love once they hit midlife.
1:45.6	And the changes, the changes in your bodies, your energy levels, your mental and emotional shifts.
1:53.5	Like, why is this coming out of nowhere? Or maybe you're not feeling like yourself. We talk about
1:59.2	all of the changes that could happen that could
2:01.7	also impact your love life. And the fact that it is actually coming from somewhere, that blew my mind
2:07.2	and explains so much of what I'm feeling with hormonal changes and perimenopause or menopause
2:13.7	and anthropos for men, which we never talk about, ever. Yes. And all those hormonal changes
2:21.6	can affect how you are in a relationship, how you react and act around other people. And also,
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