Quickie w/ Yue: Love Isn't Blind (And Not For The Reasons You Think)

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Social Sciences, Sexuality, Science, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 6 March 2026

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

Emotional connection is powerful—but is it enough? In this episode, Yue questions the idea that love can truly be “blind" but beyond just being physically attracted, and more about the general ease and connection you share in a physical space. Drawing from the TV show Love Is Blind (which she has gotten hooked this season), a recent experience with a friend of hers, and her own time in a"virtual" relationship before she finally met up with the guy in San Francisco, she explores why physical chemistry and nonverbal cues matter more than we admit. This is another reason to take the leap and go meet in person as soon as possible (even if the connection starts online). Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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1:05.9	I do not believe love is blind. You have to be physically compatible and that has nothing to do with
1:11.8	physical attraction. Hi, you are here back for another quickie episode. Storytime. I have a very good
1:18.7	friend who was seeing someone for a while and he was just so perplexed because their banter
1:26.5	over text and over the phone are phenomenal. I mean, just so much
1:33.2	back and forth, very witty and flirtatious and fun. But whenever he does see her in person,
1:40.5	it feels like he's with a completely different person.
1:46.1	It's just like a different vibe.
1:47.9	And the vibe is just not clicking.
1:49.6	And he came to me the other day.
1:51.9	He was like, I don't know what to do about this.
1:57.9	I feel like I really want to be with the person that I see over text and when I call.
2:03.2	But when I'm physically with this person, it just doesn't feel like we fit together. And admittedly, I've been watching a lot of Love is Blind lately. And I do think there is
2:10.0	something to be said about your physical compatibility in the same space. So in the pods of love is blind, they build a lot of
2:21.9	emotional connection, which is understandable. And that's what my friend has with the girl that
2:27.0	he's dating. And you divulge all this information about you and maybe you can be very
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