S22E3: Decentering Men & Dating (Without Giving Up On Finding Love) w/ Allison Goldberg

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Sexuality, Social Sciences, Relationships, Science, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 24 February 2026

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever felt so burnt out on dating you wanted to give up? This may sound counterintuitive but we're talking about how decentering men and dating could be the key to removing this dating exhaustion – and ultimately finding your person. We're talking with comedian Allison Goldberg about how she shifted her dating strategy to staying open to meeting someone but not making her whole life centered around it. We're discussing the difference of decentering vs not trying at all, how to avoid slipping into the line of heterofatalism, and tangible ways you can build an incredible life that someone is only so lucky to join. Enjoy! To learn more about Alli and to go to a Love Isn't Blind show near you, go to https://loveisntblind.com/ Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Ui Shoe.
0:01.7	And I'm Julie Craft-Chic.
0:03.5	We're active daters turned dating insiders.
0:06.0	Here to dive into everything, modern dating and relationships.
0:09.6	Welcome to Datable.
0:14.8	Hello, friends.
0:18.8	Welcome back to another episode of Datable.
0:22.0	Are we ready to laugh?
0:23.6	I'm ready to laugh.
0:25.0	Laugh and learn.
0:26.0	Because this guest makes me laugh every time.
0:28.1	No, this is a great one.
0:29.6	We're so excited to bring Alison Goldberg, who is a comedian and creator, and she hosts the hit live dating show, Love Isn't Blind, where the
0:38.5	men can't speak. And before Love Isn't Blind, she sold her live comedy show How to Break Up by
0:44.3	Text to Audible. And we had her on the podcast back in 2023, season 16, episode five,
0:51.9	How to Break Up by Text for anyone interested. We'll link it in the show notes too.
0:55.6	So we're excited to have her back for a part too. I'm sure you've all wondered, what would inspire
1:00.5	someone to have a live dating show called Love Isn't Blind where the men can't speak? Well, it was
1:05.8	inspired by the fact that she had a slew of really bad dates where she couldn't get a word in
1:10.1	because people wouldn't shut up on these dates. She was so burnt out by dating that she had a slew of really bad dates where she couldn't get a word in because people wouldn't shut up on these dates.
1:12.6	She was so burnt out by dating that she said, I'm going to turn this around and make it a rule on my show that people can only speak when they are told to speak, but also like the men cannot speak.
1:23.8	And really the burnout actually led us to this discussion because she was feeling very
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