S22E15: The Dating Funnel That Will Get You From The First Date To A Real Relationship w/ Amy Chan

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Sexuality, Social Sciences, Relationships, Science, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 19 May 2026

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

Could you really be one to two shifts away from having the type of healthy relationship you've always wanted? Our guest today, Amy Chan, believes so as she talks about the dating experiment that changed her life (that you all can do too) and how to look at dating like a sale funnel to identify which part is tripping you up. We discuss the 5 stages of dating, why we often want to slide through the most important phase, and how you can create your own dating bootcamp by being the scientist of your love life. To learn more about Amy Chan follow her @missamychan and go to https://missamychan.com Get her new book 'Unsingle' wherever books are sold. ---- PS We mention dating experiments we've done in the intro, here are the episodes: S13E18: 24-Hour Date S11E11: Politics Aside: A Blind Date Experiment Season 10 Episode 9: Love is Blind Part 1 Season 10 Episode 10: Love is Blind Part 2 Season 7 Episode 1: 2 Blind Dates Season 3 Episode 3: Dating on a Whim Season 2 Episode 1: The Blind Date Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.E. Shue. And I'm Julie Kraftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into everything, modern dating and relationships.
0:09.6	Welcome to Datable.
0:15.6	Hello, friends. Welcome back to another episode of Datable. Yay. Have you met the scientific
0:24.4	Carrie Bradshaw yet? Because that's who we have on the show today. She is dubbed the
0:31.2	scientific Carrie Bradshaw, which I love by the observer. Her name is Amy Chan, and she's a
0:36.0	trusted voice in modern relationships for nearly
0:38.9	two decades now, blending psychology, neuroscience, and real world insight. Of course I knew who this was
0:45.3	when you announced it, but my immediate, like, visual went to like Carrie Bradshaw on her computer,
0:50.9	like curly hair. In a lap coat? Yeah, like in a lab coat and like the glasses and like the
0:56.4	binocular glasses. She's like doing droplets or something under a microscope. Like I don't know why.
1:02.4	That's what you think of scientific. I love it though. We're so excited to have this conversation
1:08.6	because we've been following Amy for a bit.
1:16.0	She did, she kind of came onto the scene with her breakup boot camp, which was pretty revolutionary.
1:16.8	I think it was back in like 2017.
1:19.6	A while ago at this point, it was the world's first heartbreak retreat.
1:24.0	I feel like when I was going through heartbreak, like being with other people probably
1:27.7	would have been like the best thing for me. I feel like I knew it the shit out of my friends.
1:31.7	So being with other people going through it is probably like the best thing. But she's taken that
1:38.0	concept because obviously all the people that go through the breakup eventually, once they're healed,
1:45.8	they want to find love again and they want to learn how to date again. So she took everything she learned from doing those
1:50.5	boot camps and then now is doing dating boot camps and published a new book called Unsingle.
1:56.7	So in this conversation, we're going to talk about why most people are only one to two shifts away from being able to create a healthy relationship.
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