Have you ever met the right person at the wrong time? I used to cling to that idea like it meant

something was unfinished, that if the timing shifted, it would all work out. But what I've learned

is wrong timing is often just a softer way of saying someone wasn't ready to choose you, because

when someone is truly ready, they don't risk

losing something that matters. And the better question is, are we romanticizing almost

relationships instead of accepting what they actually are? The difference between timing and

readiness, that's what we're digging into today. I'm Julie. And I'm UA and we're sharing what we

learned the hard way so you don't have to. This is what I learned the hard way for sure.

There's really no wrong person at the right time or the right person at the wrong time. I just don't

believe that. It's either the right person in the right time or the wrong person at the wrong time. I think when someone tells you that they're not ready, that's the wrong person. That's all you need to know. Yeah, it's all you need to know. It's not bad timing. It's just the wrong person. That's the wrong person because that's the wrong time. I mean, this kind of feeds into the topic we talked about, like, expecting someone to change. And I feel

like with readiness, when someone's saying I'm not ready, instead of being like, I can get them there,

it needs to be like, nope, they're not right. I'm moving on. I feel like that to me, I don't know why.

Like, I look back at my younger self and I'm just like, why didn't you listen? They were telling you. They were being honest. Because they you started making excuses or they could also have the excuses. I'm just really busy with work right now or I'm going through this transition, like this moving thing. I might be leaving a country.

It's always something. Like it's not, it's not about you. It's about the circumstances. And so then you start rationalizing in your head. Like, oh, once this thing settles down or once they make a decision

about the move or not, then they'll see that they want to be in this

relationship. Ultimately, they're to say, I'm not the person for you. But they're taking

themselves out of the running by telling you all of this. The only time I truly think it might

have been timing in my life was when I was with the guy that had to like get deported, like he had to

leave the country. Because there was like in that way, it was like there is nothing about timing

that's going to work here. That being said, I do believe if you were really ready and committed

to something, you could have still made it work long distance.

You could have figured something else out. So yes, the timing was not ideal and it's working

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