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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Lisa Pressman and today we're going to talk about

the inevitable stress of the holidays, how to ease the transitions, how to respond to kids who are

a little bit more sensitive and not quite as adaptable, how to set your expectations and intentions

so that when you're interacting with family members and you're feeling sort of the eyes of judgment,

that you know how you're going to move forward without it tying your stomach up in knots.

And I have Claire Learner joining me. She did an episode earlier this fall called Why is My Child

and Charge, which is also the name of her book and you guys loved it. So I'm having her back.

We're going to talk also about just how to understand your kids a little bit more in these times

of stress remembering that even exciting times, even excitement is stressful. That's something

that Claire says on today's episode and I really think that that is a good reminder.

We're also talking about how to prepare your kids to be around extended family members

and not only to help them understand your family and prepare them also to help your family

understand your kids and to help you understand your kids in the way that you already do,

but in the context and with the lens of a different setting. If you enjoy this episode,

please write a review and of course if you haven't already, subscribe, give a little rating,

ideally a five-star rating and DM me on Instagram at Raising Good Humans podcast

and I will answer your questions either on Instagram or in my listener Q and A's and happy December.

Claire, can you set up in a dream world what we can tell ourselves to manage our expectations

this holiday season? Sure and I think it's the most important starting point because how you're going

to respond and help yourself and your kids get through this as unscathed as possible is to

shift your mind and not get caught in that horrible expectation gap where

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