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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and today is a bonus episode all about

siblings because the holidays are coming up. The candy is plentiful. The sleep is getting

bad and moods are changing. So even though there's lots of cheer and joy, there may be some

sticky sibling situations. I've gotten a lot of DMs on my Instagram at Raising Good Humans

Podcast. Keep them coming. So today I combined a bunch of questions so that I could

answer them by talking about siblings. I'm talking about sibling rivalry versus sibling bullying.

I'm talking about ways to intervene that are more like an emotion coach versus a judge.

And we're talking about some language that you can use to support siblings as they are

learning to live together and support each other. If you enjoy this episode, please don't hesitate

to subscribe, rate, write a review. It helps me get the word out. It helps me get this podcast to

more people. And if you have time and you're up for an exciting event on December 10, we're doing

a Raising Good Humans Live podcast. And you can go to my Instagram at Raising Good Humans podcast

and link in the bio to get tickets. My proceeds will be going to a wonderful organization,

save the children that focuses on helping children in poverty in the United States.

The first thing to really keep in mind and help kids understand is that you can let go of trying

to be fair and trying to convince your kids why you're fair and start to embrace that it is

equitable, that it is about uniqueness of each child and each child's needs, that you don't

love them the same. You love them each for who they are individually. There's a great line in

siblings without rivalry. The line is essentially to not focus on being loved equally, be loved

uniquely. So if you remove the emphasis on equal and fair and comparisons, you actually feel better.

Nobody wants to think that everything is exactly equal. If they focus on that, what you're always

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