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Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

S17E4: How to Stand Your Ground and Hold Gaslighters Accountable

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space

Education, Self-improvement

4.71.3K Ratings

🗓️ 27 January 2023

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

Last week Dr. Dom and Terri discussed how to identify various forms of manipulation. And, we heard you. It was a much-needed, albeit tender topic, about how we function in our interpersonal relationships. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri move out of the tender area into a place of power by outlining concrete steps you can take to stand 10 toes in who you are as a person and how you want to be treated going forward. Lady, the secret is it all starts with you and how you view and treat yourself. We told you last week and want to remind you to pack a lot of self-compassion and self-forgiveness as you build your confidence muscle in navigating difficult situations with people who may have mal intent. But, there’s hope! Once you master these skills, you’ll be able to walk out and meet life with your head high and your back straight because you trust yourself. It’s hard work to get there, but it’s worth it because you’re worth it! If this episode resonates with you be sure to share it with a friend or sister friend and leave us a 5-star review to let others know that we’re on this journey together and we’ve got you.

Additional Episodes
- S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence
- S8E9: Getting the Relationship You Deserve with Allison Wellington
- S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist?
- S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner a Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
- S17E5: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and Manipulation Sound Like

Being in a Relationship with Yourself is Key (Standing Your Ground Begins Within)
1. Trust yourself
2. Create a positive internal dialogue
3. Work on managing emotions
4. Strive for confidence/wholeness

Strategies to Deal with a Gaslighter
1. Listen to their side of the story (take notes if you have to)
2. Ask questions and try to get specifics from them
3. Remain calm and stay silent during their outburst
4. Pull up receipts and proof and call them out

A Few Strategies of Self-Protection
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-games/201904/gaslighting-in-relationships-seven-ways-protect-yourself

Quote of the Day:
“The ways you have learned to survive may not be the ways you wish to continue to live.”

― Thema Bryant

Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
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Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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On this week's episode of cultivating her space

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I think it's really important to

0:36.6

Confront the behavior because it leads back to that confidence when we speak up for ourselves and we let them know we're on to them

0:43.4

They often end up finding a new victim because they know crap. I can't play this game with her

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Right, I gotta do this with someone else

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Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation

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Inspiration or a fresh perspective if you have any aha moments or appreciate anything from this episode

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Other bonus content from the patreon tab

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Welcome to cultivating her space a podcast dedicated to uplifting women like you

1:28.0

We're your hosts

1:29.6

Dr. Dominic Broussard a college professor and psychologist and Terry Lomax a techie and motivational speaker

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In a world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood

1:42.0

Please join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where black women can just be

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