S17 Ep284: Breaking the Fear of Commitment with Dr. Gary Chapman

Heart of Dating

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Relationships, Society & Culture, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 2.1K Ratings

🗓️ 14 January 2026

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Today we’re kicking off Season 17 with Dr. Gary Chapman, who’s diving deep into breaking the cycle of commitment fears, shifting our focus to loving others first, and sharing wisdom for singles and marrieds alike! Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true . . . . . Check out this week's sponsors: Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self. Cozy Earth: This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code HEARTOFDATING for up to 20% off the best bedding sets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:33.6	The Bible says God loved us before we loved him.
0:37.0	In fact, we love God because he loved us first.
0:39.6	So in any relationship, as Christians, we love God because he loved us first. So in any relationship as Christians,
0:46.1	we should take the initiative to love the other person, even if they're not loving us. We take the initiative to love them. Do I have the attitude of love as I am serving people around me,
0:52.8	as a single, as I am dating people and not just analyzing them
0:57.3	for how well they fit me, but how am I just seeking to love them just as a person and a human
1:03.8	being?
1:04.3	If you're going to hold on to find the perfect person, you will not get married because there
1:10.3	are no perfect people. What you want to be looking for, I think, is where is their heart? What would you be looking for that would be better? And you may find that when you write them down and think about them, those things aren't really that important. Today, we are breaking the cycle of the fear of commitment with the legend himself,
1:41.7	Dr. Gary Chapman, of the five love languages.
1:45.9	Hey, we are in a brand new series here on the Heart of Dating podcast.
1:49.3	It's called Breaking Cycles, where we are going to tackle things that really hinder
1:54.2	relationships and ultimately destroy them.
1:57.3	And so we're getting into it, Dr. Gary Chapman today.
2:00.2	He is just phenomenal. JJ,
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