S16 Ep273: Pacing and Boundaries: How Fast is Too Fast?

Heart of Dating

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Christianity, Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 3 September 2025

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Today we’re kicking off Season 16 with Pastor Stephen Chandler, who’s giving us the real talk on dating timelines, pacing relationships, and building true friendship before you sprint to engagement! Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en . . . . . Check out this week's sponsors: Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	So four months, way fast. Too fast.
0:02.8	Wait, you.
0:03.3	Like, regardless of.
0:04.8	I don't know the weather people have where they live, but you need to see snow.
0:08.9	You need to see trees.
0:11.4	You need to see grass grow and die.
0:13.8	So on the first day, don't talk about how many kids you want to have together.
0:18.1	Yeah.
0:18.5	Don't share those deep, intimate dreams that you have with somebody that you're not even
0:23.6	sure you're going to text back six weeks from that.
0:26.5	Am I allowed to date multiple people at the same time?
0:30.7	Okay.
0:31.1	So I did that.
0:32.0	Okay.
0:32.4	I did that.
0:34.1	Yeah.
0:36.3	Now, as a pastor, do you see that people actually are following that advice?
0:42.0	Like, I love it.
0:44.7	Absolutely not. Too many Christian relationships start super fast and then they burn out. Okay, have you ever been
1:04.6	on a first date that ended up six hours long and you were like, this is my person? And you
1:10.0	see that that person for the next few
1:11.6	weeks and then suddenly everything drops off. And it feels like you just went through this massive
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