Very often when someone wants us we think they're abundant.

Oh, they'll always be there. When someone doesn't want us, we think I must have them.

They're rare and valuable. Oh, Hey everyone. It's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast.

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Have you ever found yourself attracted to the wrong person?

What is the wrong person? Well the wrong

person could be someone who doesn't notice us or frankly doesn't even care

that we exist. It could be someone who is treating us badly,

someone who's toxic. It could be someone who's simply not prepared to

invest on the level that we are. But why do we fall for this kind of person?

There are two answers to this. One is perspective, the other is self-esteem.

Let's start with perspective. Sometimes we find someone

who appears to be hard to get, uniquely challenging and because they're

uniquely challenging we immediately attribute a value to them based on a kind of cerebral supply and demand economics.

If they're not available, they must be worth more.

And that's why when people come to me and say,

Matt, why am I always attracted to the people I can't have,

but the people that want me I'm never attracted to.

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