There should be no amount of things a person could do in 24 hours or one week

that makes your entire mind up about it.

Hey everybody, Matthew Hussie here with the Love Life podcast. Really excited for you

to hear the episode today. Let's get into it.

Somebody else wrote that what they're afraid of and all you're dating is getting too invested

too quickly. Probably the most relatable thing I've ever read in my life. Don't we all feel that?

What do you think? I think I reframe, you know, it's like if you're in that stage where

you're texting someone you like and you end up in the position of waiting by the phone for their

next text. I think if that happens, something in your framing of what this person does for you

has gone wrong because you don't notice person very well and you're kind of now reliant on them

for your validation and something has gone really strange if that's happening. So I try and

clear the decks in those moments and you just got to be like, everything that this person

invests or everything they prove to me that their great is upside and if they don't then nothing's

changed. Like it's the same as before I met them, it's the same as after I met them. So if they

keep proving to me that they're a great person, I text them, I'm going to be enthusiastic and positive.

And if they don't, I'm like, okay, cool. Like nothing lost. I'm still going to keep up all the

things that are important to me before I knew this person existed. I'm going to keep being out there,

have great friends, have great adventures, have a great life. And if they're on board for that,

amazing. That's cool. But I'm not going to now suddenly change my whole frame of what's

important to me and what determines my happiness based on whether this person decides I'm important

or not, important enough to text back. Very good. Anything else to add? Yeah, I think that

I'm afraid I'll get obsessed too quickly is a is a kind of it's almost a way of abdicating

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