I invest too much too soon, I throw myself in and I always get burned or whatever, I suffocate the relationship in the early stages,

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There is a comment that I read an awful lot in our community from women who say

Matt my problem is that I invest too much too soon. My emotions get the better of me

I get carried away and because I really like someone

I give a lot in the beginning. It's a tricky situation even philosophically you

have the people who say if you're feeling it, just go with it.

If you really like someone and it feels great and you're in love and whatever, just go for it.

And then there's this other group of people over here that say, no no no,

if you over invest, if you give too much, then you're going to ruin it, you need to

hold a piece of yourself back, you need to slow it down, you've got people telling you to do a whole bunch of things

that don't feel very natural for you to do in those stages when you just want to get carried away,

it's fun to get carried away, it's fun to get carried away, it's romantic to get carried away.

I fear that one of the inadvertent side effects of what we have been doing in this organization over the last 10 years is that I've turned some people into over analyzers.

I've made them think so much about a guy's every move and about their every move

that they've almost become too logical and they think too much and that's never

been my intention. My intention has always been to support

romance, to increase that sense of fun, of joy in dating and relationships, to create more of a sense of freedom, not to stifle people with a bunch of rules and principles and things that they have to do or worry about all the time.

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