Do we really want what we say we want?

Or is what we want to be in this position of relative safety

and to complain about it?

What's up everybody? Matthew Hussey here. Welcome back to the Love Life podcast. A fun, informative, insightful clip from one of our previous videos today.

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I think there's a difference between what people are attracted to or what's best for them and what you're used to.

And I think sometimes your type comes from what you're used to and what you've had.

And and type can mean looks, you're blonde, brunette, tall, short, thin, large, whatever.

But it can just mean it can mean certain behaviors or dynamics that you're used to.

Right? It can mean different things like what your type is.

But I think that people do when they go into dating apps, people often superficially have an idea of,

I like sporty type. I like a preppy type of person. I like, I don't like people who went to a posh school

and had a silver spoon in their mouths all their life. People will have certain ideas that they just,

they're just all these different mishmash of preferences, prejudices, habits, things you're used to.

And I'm convinced that there's a lot of them that are just a distraction because they're not focused on behavior.

They're not focused on character. They're not character based. They're, they're a hodgepodge of ideas you've got in your head.

But I think you can have a type, a personality type as well, right?

Meaning you can be attracted to very differently packaged people who have the same core.

Yes, right. They look, they look very different, but they have the same kind of confidence or they have the same kind of humor.

Yeah, or even toxic traits as well. You can be attracted to the same toxic, one specific toxic trait over and over again.

And it will just appear in all these different kinds of guys that you then go, well, I don't have a type,

but what your type is, you know, asshole.

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