(Rewind): 3 Ways to Find Out If They Are Love Bombing You
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
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🗓️ 16 August 2024
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
I’ve heard this story so many times before . . .
You go on a date with a guy and instantly, you feel a strong connection. What was supposed to just be drinks turns into dinner, which turns into a 12-hour affair. When you do eventually part ways, you look down at your phone and find a message sitting in your inbox saying, “Can I see you tomorrow?”
You feel amazing.
Over the next few weeks, it’s a whirlwind. He wants to spend every waking minute together, he’s outspoken about his feelings for you, and upon waking, you always have a “Good morning, gorgeous!” text waiting for you.
He may even go so far as to introduce you to his friends and family . . . or say those three little words that so many others have struggled to say to you in the past . . .
It’s intense and fast, but it feels so good that you just let the romance sweep you off your feet.
Overnight, your life has turned into one of those romantic movie montages that show the highlight reel of a perfect relationship, except instead of the montage spanning a year or two, it’s hitting those milestones after a few weeks.
And then, of course, it happens . . . something feels wrong, the communication slows down, he starts to pull away, and before you know it, he vanishes completely.
You’re left dazed, shellshocked, and wounded—fully relating to the term “love bombing” and wondering if any of it was even real.
If this sounds familiar, then this video is for you as I share 3 tests that will help you spot a love bomber.
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| 0:00.0 | The danger with a projection like this is we're not safe. |
| 0:03.2 | Their feelings aren't based on a real connection. |
| 0:07.2 | It's based on something they want to feel. And How do you spot a love bomber? Is the person you're seeing right now love bombing you or |
| 0:36.7 | are they just some sort of wonderful romantic that you should be throwing yourself into the arms of and enjoying all of the beautiful feelings that are being created. |
| 0:48.0 | Well, let's perhaps first define a love bomber. A love bomber is a sort of love vampire. They know that love is both the objective and the weapon. |
| 0:58.0 | The objective because love is that feeling they're trying to get and it could be different forms of love. |
| 1:04.3 | It could be making love. |
| 1:06.1 | It could be sex. |
| 1:07.4 | Or it could be the giddy feelings that they really enjoy in the early stages of a relationship, treating you like you're some sort of fresh canister of love to be used up like an aerosol. |
| 1:21.5 | And then when you're running empty empty they move on to the next person |
| 1:25.1 | and get the giddy feeling all over again. |
| 1:27.7 | They use love as a weapon because the way that they create those giddy feelings is to give them to you, is to give a huge amount |
| 1:37.3 | of energy and investment early on to tell you very grandiose, dramatic things about how wonderful you are, about how strong their feelings |
| 1:46.2 | are, they do things that aren't earned at the level of relationship you're at with them, all in pursuit of a stage of connection that is not organic to where you are right now. |
| 2:00.0 | It's kind of a hack, isn't it? |
| 2:01.1 | If I can get you to fall in love really quickly, if I can get you to feelings |
| 2:05.8 | of love really quickly, then you'll start doing for me the kinds of things that you wouldn't |
| 2:11.4 | normally do this early in the game, which might mean more attention, |
| 2:16.7 | more sex, more investment, or just a portrait of myself that feeds that feeling I want to get about how wonderful I am. |
| 2:28.0 | If I can make you fall in love really quickly, then I get to feel awesome. I get to prove yet again that another person has |
| 2:36.4 | fallen for me this hard which is especially desirable in people who don't feel |
| 2:41.4 | enough themselves. |
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