Seeing that we've cost ourselves something can actually be the most valuable thing about a mistake.

That if we felt no pain, we'd make no change. Right. Do you feel feel like recently made a mistake or in a past dating situation or relationship

you made a mistake that screwed things up and you can't get it off of your mind

because there is this this feeling you have that the

relationship could have been so great. This maybe could have even been your person and that this

mistake whatever it was you did, really messed it up.

And you've been ruminating over that, beating yourself up for it, wondering,

is there anything I can do to remedy the situation is there anything

I can do still to get that person back and by the way I'm going to illustrate this video

with a question around this subject that came in from one of my love life members.

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Okay, so I want to read you this question from one of my members.

To keep things anonymous, I will call her Dana. And Dana says, I was dating

this amazing guy for about four months, and unfortunately I pushed him away with my

insecurities. I'm aware of my attachment style and issues and I've done a lot of work in that department, including therapy and studying relationships.

Everything was smooth and consistent

until we were about to get into an actual relationship.

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